Those people who aren’t prepared to take step one, never take step two. Zig Ziglar
So you’ve decided you want to make a change to your life. You’ve decided that after all this time of working for ‘the man’ and being down trodden, you’re going to do this whole ‘creating your perfect life’ thing. You know what you want and you have a vague idea about how you’ll produce the results.
But you don’t do it.
You don’t leave that job. You don’t make that break. You don’t start something new. You just sit there, doing nothing.
To make it worse you’ve now been stuck in this limbo for so long you’re becoming bitter to those around you who are making the jump and you’ve started to make excuses for your lack of momentum. Do yourself a favour, if you don’t have the balls to do this yet, don’t bitch and moan at others who do.
I worked with a guy once, who wanted to be a model. He’d had interest from agencies and stuff and was keen to get going but he was staying stuck. He had lots of opportunities to do it and make the dream actually happen but he took none of them. Why? Well in this case it was fear of failure that was stopping him from doing what he wanted. He didn’t want to fail and that alone was robbing him of his dream.
But he never told anyone that he had “the” fear. What he told was a bunch of stories about why it wasn’t happening. And boy there were some great ones over the week and months!
Are you just making excuses?
It’s easier to stand still than go for a run isn’t it? If that wasn’t true, the gym industry wouldn’t be the success it is. Because we all know it’s harder to move than to stand still, it’s now people’s jobs to motivate us to exercise. But if you’re making excuses you’re standing still and that won’t turn those dreams of yours into reality.
Some excuses you might be giving for standing still…
- I don’t have the time.
- My manager doesn’t support me.
- I can’t do it as well as other people.
- I don’t know where to start.
- I don’t have the money.
- There’s no opportunities for me.
Bullshit! These are just claims from you about not having the resources but actually what makes people successful in this life is resourcefulness. If you really want this badly you’ll find a way. If you really want this to happen you’ll make it happen. The question is how badly do you want it? How much are you prepared to put on the line for all of this to come in a spectacular way? How much does your heart race at the thought of your dreams coming true?
If you’re not moving and just making excuses for why it isn’t happening try this….
Get a pen and a sheet of paper and write down all of the reasons you’ve given for not chasing your dreams yet and for standing still. Think of all the things you’ve said and done to stop yourself from starting. When you’ve done that go back through the list and come up with a solution to over it. For example:
Excuse: I don’t have time.
Solution: I can create more time by not watching mindless TV in the evening.
Excuse: I don’t know where to start.
Solution: I’m going to start in the only way I know how, from the beginning and make sure I find out how others started off.
Now is the time to stop making excuses if you really want this to happen. It’s time to shift your mindset from “poor little me” to “watch out world, here I come.” It’s time to stop bitching and moaning at other’s success and show the world that you have something to contribute too.
It’s not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man actually in the ring. – Theodore Roosevelt
Ben Lumley writes about Success and Personal Achievement at TheBenLumley.com. He is a Personal Achievement Coach and Motivational Speaker. Make sure your grab the RSS feed to keep updated and also subscribe to FREE Weekly Success Tips.