Why You Need To Trust Yourself When The Wheels Come Off Your Career Wagon

6ul 949racing WheelsWhat do you do when the wheels come off your career wagon?

That’s a question that brings a lot of people to me. People who’ve expected their work – and lives – to go in a certain direction. To have just the same enthusiasm today as they always had yesterday.

But then something happens.

Someone close gets very ill – or they themselves do. A relationship hits the rocks or, conversely, an unexpected one is kindled – an affair, perhaps. Unexpected performance feedback hits them deeply. A business they’ve expected to do well fails. Their job disappears, or is restructured in an alien way.

Maybe their passion for what they once did ebbs away and they have to confront the gnawing reality that something about them is changing.

Whatever, there’s suddenly a crisis of meaning. Life no longer bobs along in the same knowable, predictable way. Work just doesn’t feel the same or they don’t feel the same in it.

If you recognise yourself in this, you’ll recognise too the struggle to reassert yourself. You strive to get your energy and focus back to where they were, and you notice how exhausting that is. Because there is no going back, only forward.

You search for answers outside yourself; words of wisdom to buoy you up or give you some structure. These may work for a while, but sooner or later you have to admit to yourself that they’re not the real deal.

The decision to trust yourself

The only solution that in my experience really works, is to look inside yourself for the direction you need to take now, and for the resources that will help you. There’s so much noise out there. So many gurus with The Answer that it’s difficult to trust that your own being knows more about you than they ever could. But that’s how it is.

Of course such discovery work is often best done with a guide; someone who knows this territory and can help you make sense of and give shape to your journey. But the starting point for it is always you, and the self-belief that you can get yourself out of whatever porridge you feel you’re currently wading through.

Trusting yourself starts with a clear decision. Sure, it sounds easy, and does hard. But once you’ve made that decision you’ll be amazed at how your own and other people’s energy mobilise to take you forward differently. You need to be ready to pay attention to all of the subtle as well as obvious ways that will happen. The longer you hesitate, the longer you stagnate.

So, what about you? What’s stopping you in your tracks right now? How would trusting yourself help you move forward? What are you waiting for?
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What No One Tells You About Being Off Work Sick

Day 232 / 365 - Sick. Return of the tissue mountain...So, I’d started a series on recession proofing your career in 2011, planning to hit January with a blast of upbeat thought pieces for those of you determined that work be a rich and meaningful part of your life, no matter what the economy throws in our direction this year.

But then something unplanned hit me. I got the dreaded lurgy. And spent the best part of 10 days in bed feeling more blah than blah. Unheard of!

Today I’m just easing back into the online swing of things. I can’t yet say what I’ll be doing with my series. Meantime there were three big things I noticed about being off sick that I wanted to share.

The power of the indispensability myth

Like all of the high-functioning, high-achieving people I work with and write for, if I get ill, one of my primary concerns is how about I’m going to get my work done. For some days I worried both about canceling clients and about not being able to keep the blog ticking along. I had such a sense of letting people down.

But, with exhaustion pinning me to the spot and a brain like porridge, I increasingly had no option but to surrender. Still, the experience put me back in touch with the lure of the indispensability myth that I’ve talked about before. And the need for me to “take my own medicine” as one of my astute readers advised in an email.

Love heals – and more

One of the tests I was aware of putting out there in giving over to my illness was that of relationship. Would my client and online connections be strong enough to withstand a significant period of me not being around?

So, I was beyond touched by the lovely get well messages from clients, readers and folks I hang out with online. I’ve recently been writing about some of the tough and sometimes inhumane things happening in the world, especially the world of work, so to experience such genuine, positive good human feelings was brightening indeed.

Then, my friend Michael Martine, living up to his Remarkablogger brand, mailed me offering to look after the site for a while, by arranging posts from himself and others, and setting up tweets for me via Hootsuite. It felt like a big thing for me to accept, but doing so seemed to open the way for others to make similar offers. A whole magical online space-holding thing happened. Michael, thank you so much.

Thank you too El Edwards, Adrian Swinscoe, and Jen Smith for your lovely posts. I was so buoyed up by your generosity of spirit. Not only that, but the blog got some benefits too. Traffic stats are back to at least what they were before I went off. And you’ve brought some new readers, commentors, and tweeters :-)

Genius!

Illness has purpose

You know, I write a lot about the hunger I meet in lots of you for work to be a soulful, meaningful experience. An enriching part of a rich life.

But here’s the thing, you have to have some contact with your soul to have any sense of what that really feels like. In our modern world, there’s so much stuff out there to pay attention to and do, that that inner voice can all too easily go unheard. Even if we’re a little uneasy about something, we can often use our clever minds to try to logic our way beyond it.

But I’m not so sure that’s ever the whole answer.

I also think that sometimes there’s something quite profound for us to understand about ourselves when unexpected things derail us. In my case I would rather not have had to have felt like I was dying to *get* my soul’s lesson, but as my illness abated, some things began to clarify and settle for me.

I haven’t finished processing this or bottoming it out yet. It’s a creative thing and takes its own time. Nevertheless, I’ve confronted in myself that, for a little while before I got ill, I’d just been doing too much. I’m a high octane person who lives and works with big enthusiasm. But there’s also a part of me that needs quiet time and space too. Getting ill was a sign that I’d been neglecting it and was in danger of burning out if I let it run further unchecked.

So, in getting back to work I’m not cranking into fifth gear immediately and pretending it all didn’t happen. I’m also reinstating my good practices of meditation and journalling that I’d left off for a while as I spent hours building new stuff, talking to lots of people, and doing too much gym.

What that all means now for my blog I’m not sure. I sense another shift in direction coming. Maybe I’ll put a big more Zen into it. Maybe I already have!
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The Top 10 Habits of Happy Workers

I’ve always loved the focus Christine has here at “A Different Kind Of Work”. Times are changing and we want more from our work lives these days. We want to express ourselves through our work and pay the bills. We want to earn a living without selling our soul. We want to enjoy our work and the rest of our lives. So how do we do that? In my experience, there are some healthy habits we can employ, that make a big difference.

1. Be Yourself

As much as possible, try to find work that allows you to be “you”. If you find that you have to be something other than yourself at work, have a look and see what needs to change. Sometimes, we are the ones holding ourselves back at work. Let people know who you are and what you are about (whilst doing a good job). If you really find that it is too difficult to be yourself at work, maybe it is time for a change? Finding work that aligns with your values and who you really are is one of the best things you can do for yourself

2. Don’t Gossip

If you don’t gossip about others it is easier to stay out of workplace politics and keep a clear head and conscience. If you have a difficulty with a colleague, try to be direct and deal with it with them in the first instance. Though it can sometimes be difficult, people do appreciate it when others are upfront rather than talking behind their back. Being someone who doesn’t gossip is good for your self esteem and often has a ripple effect to others around you. You may help your colleagues to stop gossiping by your example and contribute to a healthier work environment.

3. Set Clear Boundaries

Know your own boundaries and be clear about them. For example, if you don’t want to continually be doing overtime, you need to get clear that this is a priority and make it happen. I know this may be easier said than done and is often dependant on your work place culture and boss, however ultimately it is up to you to create your own boundaries and stick to them. This doesn’t mean you have to be inflexible, but if you are continually unhappy with a situation at work, it is time to look at what needs to change. When you are clear and assertive about what works and doesn’t work for you others will get clear too. If they don’t and you have tried everything, it could be a sign that you need to move on to a job that will support you better.

4. Switch Off

Switching off from work is a weak spot for many people. Learn to switch off. This doesn’t necessarily happen automatically. You may need to set a rule for yourself that you turn your phone and laptop off at a certain time. Try to schedule things to do in your spare time that you will look forward to and stop you thinking about work when you are not there. Something as simple as changing out of your work clothes when you get home can be a way to signal the end of the work day.

5. Be Healthy

Exercising and eating well makes such a difference to work performance, satisfaction and our overall well being, but when we are busy at work these are often the first things to go. Get in the habit of eating well at work. You could drink water and herbal teas instead of coffee. How about bringing fruit and nuts to snack on? Could you arrange a healthy packed lunch each day? Having healthy alternatives to hand will make it easier to stay healthy. So many people have sedentary work lives and exercising is a great way to feel good and relieve stress. Find a way to get moving that works for you. Even going for a walk at lunch time will make a huge difference.

6. Keep Learning

Whether inside or outside work; keep on learning. Learning new skills will help you to feel confident about what you are doing, acquire new skills and enjoy life. You could request more training at work or teach yourself a new hobby. You never know where it might lead. I took a Life Coaching course a few years ago in my spare time which helped me to completely change my career.

7. Delegate

You don’t have to do everything yourself. In my opinion, delegating is one skill that most people could do with developing. If you find that you are overwhelmed or unable to let others help you it might be time to learn to delegate. Just start asking. People are usually more than happy to help. If you are a perfectionist, you may need to let go of the idea that you are the only person that can do that task. Letting go of perfectionism will be healthier for you and everyone around you and allow you to share the load.

8. Celebrate Achievements

The nature of “work” is that there is always more to do but it is important to recognise what has been done. Regularly take stock of what you have done and celebrate your achievements. This is especially important if you have a boss that doesn’t acknowledge what you do!

9. Don’t Be Afraid To Move On

Don’t be afraid to try different roles or to move on. If you have tried everything to change a work situation with no success, looking for a new role could be a wise move. The way we approach work is changing, we don’t have to stay in the same job all our lives. Try new things and find work that really lights you up!

Number 10 is up to you…

What should healthy habit number 10 be? Share your ideas with us in the comments!

Jen is a Life Coach and Personal Development blogger who can be found at www.jenmsmith.com. You can also connect with Jen on Twitter at @jennmsmith.

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How to Beat those Monday Blues with a Little Sunshine

Over the last couple of days, I heard that Christine wasn’t feeling very well and a number of friends, myself included, had rallied round to help and produce a number of posts for her. Thankfully, she tells me that she is getting back to full fitness and will be back in full swing here sooner than later.

I normally blog across at www.adrianswinscoe.com where I talk about customer centric ways of growing your business that spans ways of standing out in the face of your competition, word of mouth marketing, what sort of team you need to deliver that type of business and what sort of leader you need to be to build that type of company.

My plans for posting this Monday were going to be centred around the Blue Monday theme. That is not the New Order song but a movement, called BlueMonday.org, that aims to brighten up this very Monday, which is reportedly one of the most depressing of the year. It was an idea prompted by Matthew Needham at BigRedTomatoCompany and was going to be supported by El at Heaven and El, Ben at The Ben Lumley, Karen at AMeaningfulExistence, Christine and myself.

This year there does seem to be some confusion about what day Blue Monday actually falls on as and some newspapers featured articles on 17th, Bluemonday.org refers to 24th January and wikipedia reports both days.

That got me to thinking about Christine, Blue Monday and what I should write, particularly to fit in with the themes that Christine explores here on her blog.

Then I thought I’d just tell you this story and ask you to do one thing:

Add a little sunshine into someone’s life today, this day, that is called Blue Monday.

What do I mean?

  • Buy someone a coffee or a cake.
  • Rather than just walking past and saying Hi to someone or a work colleague that you pass every day, why not stop and spend a few minutes finding about them and how they are.
  • Help someone out.
  • Give someone a lift.
  • Lend someone your umbrella.
  • Leave an extra big tip.
  • Call a customer to say thank you. Even better…send them some flowers or something.
  • Tell someone that you think they are great.
  • Give someone a hug.
  • Smile at a stranger
  • Give someone your seat on the train or the bus
  • etc

Adding a little bit of sunshine into some else’s life today or any other day is a great thing to do. Why? For one, it will make them feel good and, secondly, I’ll bet you’ll feel pretty good about yourself and their reaction. And if everyone did it…..Blue Monday syndrome solved!

But there’s more. If you do it at work or at home or in your social circles or to random people you meet, I’ll bet some amazing things will happen, particularly at work. I think building better relationships with people is fundamental to a better business and a better life. Now, I’m not talking about being all nice and fluffy all of the time but rather that if we were to take responsibility to add a little sunshine into someone else’s life it’s a great way to build better teams, businesses, relations with customers, our communities, friends and families.

Doing this post for Christine was my way, I hope, of adding a little sunshine here on Blue Monday.

Did I succeed?

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Adrian Swinscoe is a consultant from the UK who writes about customer-focused business growth at Ideas for Business Growth. He has a strong belief that building better relationships with your people and customers can deliver sustainable growth. Why not connect with him on Twitter @adrianswinscoe, LinkedIn or if you liked this article then why not subscribe to his RSS Feed?

Are Your Colleagues Like The Paparazzi? 3 Ways to Escape

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It’s 8pm on a Friday and your mobile rings.

You look at the screen. It’s Sam from work. You sigh, but answer the phone with a cheery hello before moving into another room, leaving your significant other to continue watching the film alone.

Admit it. This isn’t the first time that this has happened.

Four days ago you were playing football with your little boy. It was your day off and the two of you were enjoying some quality time together when you got a text message from one of the guys in the office.

They’d just scored a major success and wanted to share bragging rights with you.

Did you need to know about it on your day off? How about the phone call you took from your boss during your fortnight in France with the kids?

You’ve thought about telling them to leave you alone when you’re not in work. But be honest. Sometimes you enjoy hearing the gossip. It’s nice to be kept in the loop.

Well you can’t have it both ways sugar.

Cry “privacy” and “space” and you’re in danger of looking like the publicity starved celebrity snapped putting out the bins. Three days later they’ll be flouncing up the red carpet whispering, “photograph me darling!”

So what’s a girl to do?

Fear not sweetie. There is a solution. And it’s as easy as 1, 2, 3.

1. Boundaries darling, boundaries

Are your work colleagues also your friends? Do you go out drinking with the people you share the water cooler with? Are there times when that work related contact is really just a friend from work who wants to have a gossip?

Blurring the lines between work and play can make it tricky to switch off when you step through your front door. If you’re in any sort of managerial position then this is especially true. If your friends are people you’re required to manage when you’re in the work environment, you both need to know how the friendship works in the office.

If they constantly play the friends card to get you on side, it’s time to talk about your friendship and how best to nurture it in a way that sees you both smiling.

2. Set some ground rules

You’re not indispensable. You don’t have to receive phone calls about work on your day off. But the rules of physics state that objects move along the path of least resistance. Put a ball on a level surface and it will stay still. Lift up the end and things change.

Same with you. You are that surface. Carry on as you are and nothing will change. Shake things up a bit by telling people that you’d rather not be contacted out of hours except under certain conditions and you’ll get a different result.

3. Watch your language!

If someone phones you out of hours and apologises for disturbing you on your day off, what do you say? If you’re anything like most people you’ll say “no problem” or “it’s OK” even though that’s a total lie. It is a problem for you to get phone calls on your day off and why not ask your kids if it’s OK for you to be on the phone in McDonalds? You’ll hear your answer from the mouth of babes.

By using this safe, polite language we condition the people around us into believing that it’s OK for them to send work rubbish our way, even if it’s our day off.

Stop!

Find something more honest to say.

If they apologise for ringing and offer to call you back another time but you feel that you might as well continue with the call seeing as you’re there, what do you say? How about, “You don’t need to phone back but thank you for offering.” At least it’s truthful!

If you’ve taken the time to set boundaries and ground rules, it should be easier to only take the calls that must be dealt with. Start adjusting your language and even the ‘emergency’ calls from work will be cut.

What compromises do you allow as you communicate with your colleagues in work? Are there other changes you could make that would help you switch off when you get home? Or is this all just a load of old tosh? Work-home balance, let’s talk about it in the comments.

El is the smiley face of Heaven and El and UK charity Give A Brick. She spends her days writing stuff to make you smile, inspiring people to share their awesome selves with the world and building nifty looking websites. Say hello to her on Twitter or subscribe to her RSS feed but whatever else you do, smile. It’s El’s favourite currency.

The Three Most Important Things You Can do to Stay Relevant (and Employed) Through the Great Reset

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Note:
Christine is under the weather so her friends and supporters are lining up to keep things fresh here on the blog. My name is Michael Martine of Remarkablogger with a guest post for you today. Please pardon my American spelling. :)

We’re going through more than just economic hardship. I’ve long believed that we’re going through a long-term economic sea-change. We’re not going to recover from this so much as reinvent ourselves. Turns out Richard Florida, author of Rise of the Creative Class, thinks along the same lines. His new book is called The Great Reset, and in it he suggests that it’s not recovery so much as transformation.

One of the reasons for this deep transformation is the rapid rise of technology. It’s more than just the internet and 4g networks, however. Business guru Tom Peters is fond of saying that 90% of all white collar jobs are going to disappear or be transformed. What from?

  • Faster computers means faster and more intelligent software, which means more and more work will no longer need to be done by human beings. We’re seeing this already: when was the last time a human being answered the phone when you called a service company? Expert systems can make stock trades, perform accounting, and other white collar jobs already. More to come.
  • Outsourcing will continue to evolve as new locations around the globe “come online” for various outsourcing tasks: everything from creative design work to 3D printing (what manufacturing is becoming).
  • The spread of broadband internet to new places gives people and business new options for headquartering, hiring, manufacturing, and working.

What this means for you

This should serve as an eye-opening warning that if you remain complacent, you could suddenly find yourself out of work. Worse: your job has been phased out of existence entirely. In the seventies, industrial robots began to replace many manufacturing jobs. The funny thing is, everyone knew it was going to happen. Why more factory workers didn’t retrain is something of a mystery. Don’t allow yourself  to be in the same position.

What can you do? Focus on three things:

  • Relationships
  • Creativity
  • Cross-Training

Human relevancy: relationships matter

One thing software and outsourced workers can’t do is nurture deep relationships with the decision-makers in a company. No matter how fast technology advances in the near future, it’s going to be a while before an entire workforce can be virtualized. The people at the top will still be people. And if there’s one thing that matters to people, it’s relationships.

If you’ve been coming to work and keeping your head down, getting your work done, you could easily get the ax. But if you’ve got close, warm, mutually respectful relationships with management and executives, you’re much more likely to be retained. If you just get your work done, but don’t care about anyone (and no one cares about you) getting rid of you is a simple financial decision. You want any thoughts about letting you go be too painful to contemplate. One way to be supremely valuable is to have strong relationships within the organization.

Start networking and learning how to manage relationships at work. Learn from Bob Burg & David Mann’s Go-Giver books or Kieth Ferrazzi’s Never Eat Alone.

Human creativity: because software has no imagination

Software is powerfully analytic. It can follow complex algorithms and decision trees to the point of seeming near to human intelligence. However, it cannot have an insight. Software cannot have a “Eureka!” moment. Software will never say, “What if we do this…” and offer a suggestion so crazy it just has to work.

You may not think of yourself as creative. Truth is, everyone is creative. It’s just that some have practiced it more. The first step in becoming more creative is to acknowledge the innate creativity within you. The second step is to consciously exercise your “creativity muscles.” I suggest Box of Crayons as a starting place.

Too valuable to let go: the power of cross-training

If you are the human equivalent of a cog in a machine, you are easily replaceable. This is just as true for white collar work as it is for a factory job. A person who does just one thing, and who can only do that one thing, is not as valuable to a company as a person who can step in and fill several roles as needed.

How to do this? There are several ways:

  • Volunteer to help coworkers with their projects. You’ll learn a lot about what they do and how they do it.
  • Promotion. Move higher into management. It’s often the people in the middle layers of management who get eliminated. The higher you rise and the more you’re responsible for, the less likely you’ll be replaced any time soon. Easier said than done, you say? This is where relationships and creativity also play a role, increasing your chances of promotion. However there are techniques you can use to aid in this, too.
  • Take advantage of any extra training provided by your employer.
  • Specifically request to be cross-trained so that you can fill in when the unexpected happens. It may turn out that the “unexpected” is that others get terminated and you get to do twice the work, but you’ll still be employed.

The future ain’t what it used to be

Soon we will be faced with unprecedented and rapid technological change. But no matter what, human beings will value tomorrow what they value today: relationships, creativity, and expertise.

Of course, there’s always the possibility that you could begin moonlighting on the side as a coach, consultant or freelancer, too. Diversity in income streams serves the same purpose as diversity in investing: it spreads around the risk in case of disaster, ensuring a smoother return on investment.

No matter what happens (or doesn’t happen) in the near future, you can improve your lot and quality of life at work by concentrating on these three aspects of work life. Don’t delay. Begin now. If you’re not sure how to approach this or what to do, consider Christine’s coaching as a way to explore the possibilities.

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How Being A Little Badass Will Help You Thrive In 2011

rabbitWhat mindset are you choosing to adopt as you come into this New Year? That’s the question I’m asking as we kick off the Recession Proof Your Career in 2011 series.

With the squeeze on jobs and small businesses there are two places you might be. The first is siege mentality: head down, resigned to whatever comes and feeling pretty powerless about it all.

The second is seeing yourself in the director’s seat of your own work and life, allowing the perspective and energy of that place to keep you mobile and alert to this year’s possibilities. Whatever they may be.

Assuming you’re adopting the second of these mindsets, one of the things that’s going to help you is unleashing your inner rebel.

Get badass

A lot of you professional folks have done well in the world of work and business, not because you break rules, but because you’re beyond brilliant at following them. Sometimes you censure yourself rather than risk stepping outside of safe parameters. Even when you’re breaking the rules it’s in acceptable ways.

Now, I’m not suggesting that you do anything to put yourself or anyone else in danger. On the contrary, I’m suggesting that you could help recession proof yourself by taking more of the right kind of risks.

You see, the world of work is changing. For all of us there’ll be a little bit of reinvention involved. And you need a tiny bit of rebellion to push against what needs to change.

What rules do you need to challenge or break for yourself this year? How might adding a bit of rebellion add a bit of zest to your career? How do you imagine that’s going to positively support you?

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Recession Proof Your Career In 2011

Happy New Year to you! Did you manage to get a bit of a break over Christmas? How are things now that the decs are down and life is getting back to normal?

Normal.

I’m so aware that for some of you that’s not a comfortable place right now. My UK public sector readers are already seeing the effects of our Government’s austerity measures. And private sector folks from both the UK and US have just lived through, what in some instances is the third wave of redundancies at their firms.

It’s no surprise to read Manpower’s latest statistics showing that 84% of workers they interviewed said they were going to be looking for a new job in 2011. So, if moving on from what you’re doing right now was on your New Year resolutions list, you are in very good company.

And it’s not difficult to understand why. There’s so much negativity about the world of employment, so much uncertainty. Changing jobs is a key way to demonstrate, if only to yourself, that you still have some control over your career.

But with the CIPD saying that this is going to be “the worst year for jobs”, and the prediction that 1 in 10 people will be unemployed by year end, you could well be fearing that your desire to change your work in some way is a completely futile dream.

Recession Proof Your Career in 2011

Talking directly to that dilemma, I’m going to be running a series of posts over the next couple of weeks on how you can recession-proof your career. Way I see it is that work is one of the fundamental drivers in life. It’s core to who you are. How do you best put your gifts and talents to the service of the world and benefit yourself in the process? It’s hugely dispiriting when your ability to do that is closed down because forces beyond you limit what you can do or even dream of.

So, you need to get craftier than the system. See it as a chess game. Figure a strategy for yourself. Outsmart it.

Because all good strategies begin with a vision of where they’re heading, the first posts in the series, coming your way from next Monday, are going to be getting you thinking about yours. What mindset are you seeing things through as you come into 2011. What do you want for your work? And how does that jive with what you want from what you want from life in general? How do you duck and dive if what you thought you wanted is no longer up for grabs?

Also, it’s one thing to want to escape what you’re doing right now. It’s quite another to take yourself on a positive, forward looking path. So, included in the series there’ll be a pot pourri of posts, mixing practical advice on job searching with inspiration to get you into a great mindset about the whole job change process.

As part of my Recession Proof Your Career season, I’m also going to be launching a coaching package giving some of you the chance to work with me one-to-one to go through a work transformation process tailor-made for you and your personal circumstances.

Just a little heads up about what’s coming! Wouldn’t want you to miss it.

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