Monthly Archives: September 2010

On Fear, Doubt, And Shooting For The Stars Anyway

There’s a theme at the heart of some of the very different stories I’ve heard from my people this week. It’s about wanting to be and do so much more, but holding yourself back. You know the kind of thing I’m talking about. Not pitching for a job that’s got you written all over it…

A Comprehensive Guide To Slaying Your Vampire Boss

Your first meeting with her was inspirational. “Hurrah for charisma,” you thought. At the time, something lurched in your solar plexus; something you couldn’t name. But you told yourself not to be silly; you were just imagining things. But weeks after you start working for her, things are not right. You’ve got all the signs…

Is Your Boss A Closet Vampire? Check These Tell-Tale Signs

Ever have that feeling of being perpetually drained of energy? You know, that wrung-out, zombie state that never seems to leave you? You want to shake yourself free of it, but can’t quite find the enthusiasm. Meantime, there’s work to do, targets to meet, actions to deliver. So you just go along with it all,…

What I Learned When The Muse Went On Holiday

I had an unexpected attack of writer’s block today. Caught me quite unaware. I sat and tried to magic up a headline and squeeze a few words out anyway, but I was completely stuck. There was a moment of thinking that I was letting myself and my regular Friday readers down by not posting at…

On Family, Work and Just Hanging Out

I was chatting with Joshua Black via his guest post at Men With Pens about my propensity for eavesdropping in coffee shops. But the following story, if you’ll excuse the pun, takes the biscuit. One day during the summer when my brother and nephew were staying with me, Bobby wanted a long lie. Not that…

Book Review: The New Social Learning

As someone who flies the flag for the reinvention of work, I was excited to receive a preview copy of The New Social Learning the other day. In the business world, social media is something that tends to be seen as a marketing tool on the one hand; employee time waster on the other. What…

How The Threat Of Lay Off Can Scare You Sh*tless (And What To Do About It)

So, there have been like three rounds of job cuts at your place already over the last couple of years. And just when you were beginning to think it might finally be safe enough to move from your rented apartment to buying your own place, they put you under notice of lay off again. The…

How We Use Work To Avoid Our Selves

How was your weekend? Glad to be back at work for a rest? Me? Well, I was caught off guard yesterday when I stumbled upon my divorce certificate while hunting for other documents. Maybe it was because I’d been having such a delicious weekend. On Saturday I’d done a wicked Bodypump class, met up with…

Warning: Not All Career Rules Are True

Corporations often dish up beliefs as truths and then manage you through that lens. I see it all the time in my coaching work. There’s an implicit set of assumptions that underpin the culture of a business. These are all well and good if they happen to jive with your values and beliefs, but crazy-making…