Comments on: Lost heart with your current job? Don’t rush to escape

By: 7 Warning Signs That It's Time To Quit Your Job

7 Warning Signs That It's Time To Quit Your Job — Thu, 24 Mar 2011 16:04:28 +0000

[...] It’s not surprising news. I’m hearing all the time from clients and friends just how much they want to quit. I’ve written elsewhere about being careful about not rushing to escape. [...]

By: 7 Warning Signs That It’s Time To Quit Your Job | A Different Kind of Work

Mon, 23 Aug 2010 16:45:00 +0000

[...] It’s not surprising news. I’m hearing all the time from clients and friends just how much they want to escape. I’ve written elsewhere about being careful about not rushing to escape. [...]

By: Christine

Christine — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 16:13:13 +0000

Very thoughtful comment Ben, and I like your self-summary. You identify in it not only a couple of pitfalls, but also how they can be avoided. I admire your positive, self-supporting attitude!

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Twitted by 6aliens — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 15:26:33 +0000

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By: Ben

Ben — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 15:20:11 +0000

I think this comes down to a few things for me.

1) There’s the idea of what you’re focussing on with bosses or jobs that you don’t enjoy. Choosing to focus on the drama rather than the direction needed to move forward is a constant source of negative feeling – I’ve been here and I know what it’s like. By focusing on how to move forward and solve the problem or do damage limitations you can often find a lot of the dramas you once had fall away.

2) Second is that feeling of certainty. As human beings we crave certainty whether its good or bad for us. It’s why when things are going badly in life we fall back on things like food, drugs and alcohol because they make us feel certain about ourselves. If we can develop positive certainty about our job we can foster a much more positive mindset.

A very thoughtful post Christine. Thank you

By: How New Work Pioneers use redundancy, burn-out, breakdown and loss of meaning as catalysts for transformation

Tue, 16 Feb 2010 14:44:44 +0000

[...] my own case, following a near nervous breakdown, which for a period of time made me feel lost and unconfident, I could eventually recognise some [...]

By: Christine

Christine — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 17:53:35 +0000

Couldn’t have said it better myself, Mandy! Thanks for sharing your experience.

By: Mandy Lehto

Mandy Lehto — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 22:13:19 +0000

Having left the rat-race myself, this blog-post resonates with me – I think we’ve all had a ‘Poisoned Dwarf’ somewhere down the line! And yes, we can draw a lot from them, big-picture. Your larger message (to slow down and take time to ponder change) makes very good sense indeed. When we’re truly mindful of what is happening around us – not just responding to toxicity – we can develop a healthy relationship to our surroundings, work-wise and otherwise. We can learn to adjust and better engage with those toxic co-worker relationships. When we step out of this white noise zone, we can concentrate instead on making positive, nurturing choices for ourselves – including whether to stay or go. The quick exit isn’t always the best solution; at least not till you’ve really thought it through. Bravo – another great piece!

By: Don’t button your lip on the most depressing day of the year

Don’t button your lip on the most depressing day of the year — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 13:13:05 +0000

[...] that in mind, I was really heartened an hour or so later to read a comment on my Friday post from Ayo Olaniyan, who writes over at Discovering Purpose. He’d caught a BBC news article [...]

By: Christine

Christine — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 17:01:09 +0000

I like your attitude, Bob! Even if confidence does come with having been in your occupation for a certain amount of time, there’s something to learn from you about being comfortable in your own skin and challenging people who disrespect you. You’ve got that ok-ness that I didn’t have when I was confronted with the loon, and had to learn. She was crazy, but she served me well in that respect!!

As ever I’m glad that you’re happy in your job. It sounds wonderful. I wish there were more companies like yours and I hope they ride out the economic downturn in good shape. As you say, however, about the employers who’ve not treated their people well in this crisis, it may come back to bite them. I then wonder whether that will prompt some change?